HOW GOAL SETTING ACTUALLY, WORKS?
Updated: Sep 16, 2020
THE MYSTERY REVEALED
A study at Yale pointed out the value of goals. The 1954 Yale University graduating seniors were asked if they had set any specific written financial goal at the time of graduation. Only 3% had done so. Twenty years later, they were resurveyed. The 3% that had established specific written financial goals outperformed the other 97% combined.
You only see, experience, and get what you want and you look for.
If you don’t know what you exactly want, you certainly won’t get it. By our very nature, we are a goal-seeking creature. Our brain is always trying to align our outer world with what we’re seeing and expecting in our inner world i.e. in our mind. So, when you instruct your brain to look for the things you want, you will begin to see them. The object of your desire has probably always existed around you, but your mind and eyes weren’t open to “seeing” it.
In reality, this is how the “Law of Attraction” really works. It is not the mysterious, black magic kind of trick that it sometimes sounds like. It’s far simple and more practical than that.
We are bombarded with billions of sensory (visual, audio, physical) bites of information each day. To keep ourselves from going insane, We ignore 99.9 percent of them and remember only to what we focus on.
This is why, when you “think” of something, it appears that you are miraculously drawing and attracting it into your life. In reality, you’re now just seeing what was already there. Now you are just truly “attracting” it into your life. You could not see that before because your thoughts didn’t focus and directed your mind to see it.
Make sense? This isn’t mysterious at all; it’s, in fact, quite logical. Now, with this new perception, whatever your mind is thinking internally is what it will focus on and all of a sudden “see.”
Here’s a well-worn example (because it’s so true): In shopping for or buying a new bike/car, you suddenly start to see that bike/car model everywhere on roads, right? It seems like there are tons of that model on the streets all of a sudden when they weren’t there yesterday.
But is that realistic? Of course not. They were there all along, but you weren’t paying attention to them. Thus, they didn’t really “exist” to you until you gave them your attention.
When you define your goals, you give your brain something new to look for and focus on. It’s as if you’re giving your mind a new set of eyes from which to see all the people, circumstances, conversations resources, ideas, and creativity surrounding you.
With this new perspective (an inner itinerary), your mind proceeds to match up on the outside, what you want most on the inside your goal. it’s that simple.
Knowledge helps you to reach your destination – provided you know where the destination is.
“Top people have very clear goals. They know who they are and they know what they want. They write it down and they make plans for its accomplishment. Unsuccessful people carry their goal around their head like marbles rattling around in a can, and we say a goal that is not in written is merely a fantasy.
And everybody has fantasies, but those fantasies are like bullets with no powder in the cartridge. People go through life shooting blank without written goals and that’s the starting point.”
BRIAN TRACY, Famous Author & Public Speaker.
“When you don’t know where you are going, any road will take you there,”
Cheshire cat told Alice in Alice in wonderland.
People confuse goals with dreams and wishes. Dreams and wishes are nothing other than desires. Desires are weak. Desires become strong when they are supported by:
DIRECTION, DEDICATION, DETERMINATION, DISCIPLINE, DEADLINES
These are what differentiate a desire from a goal. Goals are dreams with a deadline, clear directions, and an action plan. There is a big difference between a written and an unwritten goal. A written goal brings clarity and has the magnetic power to attract the goal.
"So long as you have your eyes on the goal, you don’t see obstacles."
If you ask most people what is their one major objective in life, they would probably give you a vague answer such as, “I want to be successful, be happy, be rich, make a good living,” and that is it. Those are all wishes and none of them are clear goals.
Goals must be “S.M.A.R.T”:
Specific. The statement, “I want to lose weight” is wishful thinking. It becomes a goal when you pin yourself down to “I will lose ten pounds in ninety days.”
Measurable/ quantifiable. Measurement is a way of monitoring your progress. I want to be happy. Is it a goal? The answer is NO because happiness is a state of mind. Can we convert it into a measurable goal? The answer is, Yes. How? “By asking what will give me happiness?” The answer is, “If I spend one hour a day with my family that will give me happiness.” Now, it is a measurable\quantifiable goal. If you cannot measure it, you cannot achieve it.
Achievable. Achievable means that your goal should make you stretch or be challenging, it should be slightly out of reach, but not out of sight. Out of reach is motivating, but out of sight is demotivating.
Realistic. If your goal is to lose fifty pounds in thirty days, you’re being unrealistic.
Time-bond. You should set a starting date and a finishing date to reach your goal.
"A good plan executed now is better than a perfect plan next week."
On a much lighter note, after being inspired by a fight between Muhammad Ali and Chuck Wepner, Sylvester Stallone wrote the screenplay for “Rocky”. Many producers liked the script and were ready to pay him a lot of money for it but refused his condition to “cast him” as well. Even with the lure of USD 265,00 at a time when his bank balance was only USD 100, Sylvester Stallon refused to lose his perspective till he got what he wanted. Rocky was a runaway success and Sylvester Stallon was nominated for an Academy Awards.